So I’ve been trying and pretty much succeeded at not letting all the rumors about myself (when I was going through my divorce) bother me anymore. That is until recently. I found out my mother had heard rumors about me, that weren’t true, well except for one. That I had left my wedding photos behind, which why would I need those? Anyway, to me that reaches a whole new level of hurt. Mostly because someone felt the need to spread these false rumors. I’ve done a pretty good job of keeping my opinions about this whole ordeal to myself. I haven’t bad mouthed anyone other than some venting I’ve done to my closest friends and even that was minimal because I was trying to be polite to everyone involved. It’s hurtful that people feel the need to lie about others. Is this supposed to help make them look better than me? To make me look like an evil person? Maybe it makes them feel important to be able to spread gossip and seem interesting for 5 seconds because they have nothing going on in their own lives that is as interesting? I have no idea half of what was said about me, I’ve only heard bits and pieces that my friends and family have heard and told me. Most of which were not true, of course. So if you’ve heard anything about me I just ask that you contact me and ask me about it before you just go ahead and believe it, especially if you are my family or a close friend. It hurts me to think that the people I love the most are forming an opinion about me based on lies. Which in turn has made me distance myself because I honestly have no idea how people feel about me right now.
Back when all of this started one of my close friends was texting me telling me things she had heard about me from a former friend of mine. She didn’t think any of the rumors sounded like me so she ASKED me, which a lot of my other “friends” failed to do. Part of me laughed at the ridiculousness of the rumors but I was also hurt that they were coming from someone that I had known for years. So even if these rumors about me come from someone that was my “friend” prior, take them with a grain of salt because these so called friends of mine aren’t my friends anymore and never once asked me about the situation after the fact. They took a side immediately and never once talked to me about anything. There are two sides to every story after all. I guess on a positive note I was able to provide entertainment to others because of my life choices and the rumors that spiraled from it. So you’re welcome! 🙂
So if you want to know something about me just ask! Maybe instead of spreading rumors about people we should ask them straight up if it’s true instead of telling everyone we know, wondering if it’s true. That’s how rumors are spread. You may think it’s harmless telling others, even if it’s just one person, but it’s harmful because then that person tells someone and so on. Or better yet keep it to yourself. What someone else is doing with their life is no one else’s business. Unless it’s harming them or someone else directly, who the heck cares. Like why people felt the need to throw a fit that I left my wedding photos behind is beyond me.
I am so thankful I don’t have any of this nonsense in my life anymore. I don’t hang out with people that gossip about their friends anymore. I don’t have to sit at a table or hang out with my friends and wonder what “friend” they are talking about today because of course the friend that wasn’t present was the one getting talked about. And not all of my friends were this way, only a handful, I do have some pretty great ones 🙂 The ones that were that way I don’t talk to anymore. I’m not saying I’m not guilty of this, after all we are the sum of the 5 people we hang out with the most, but I am so glad I left all that behind so it can’t affect me anymore. It’s really opened up my eyes to gossip and how it affects people and has made me change for the better. Just another one of the many positive changes in my life. I think I finally got rid of so much of the negativity in my life I’m finally able to attract the positive energy that I’d been waiting for. I was also able to keep my real friends around and I’ve found some amazing new friends. Life is pretty great!
So the next time you hear something about someone else and wonder if it’s true why not just ask the person directly instead of turning around and asking someone else that probably has no idea either. If you don’t know the person well enough to ask them directly then maybe it’s none of your business what’s going on in their life.
Peace my friends.